February 28, 2009

Loving the Unlovable

In my Auntie’s thirteen years of teaching, she have cried several times not because of personal problems but because of her students’ irresponsibility.

Each year, she always encounter students without regard for their studies. They seem to view school as a temporary relief from their parents’ constant nagging and don’t even recognize the significance of education to their future. They only live in the present and lack foresight.

To inspire them in value education, she inject success stories of people who have struggled hard before they were able to rise up from poverty. After listening to her sharing, most of those who do not care of their academic performance have become responsible.

February 26, 2009

Low Profile

There is value in keeping a low profile and being silent. It prevents embarrassment, you commit less mistakes, it gives you time to think, it makes you look intelligent and it helps you learn.

According to personality tests—I am a certified sanguine-choleric. I love to get attention, be the life of the party, be hungry for recognition and work with a lot of people. I am a people person. But I also go for results and I drive it. Many times I am wrong but never in doubt. I am not a person who wants to keep a low profile.

February 24, 2009

Demistifying Death

I once had a vivid dream I’ve never forgotten. I was riding in a car, sitting in the front passenger seat. Suddenly, the vehicle got into a collision. In slow motion, my head whiplashed onto the dashboard.

But what surprised me was the next scene. At the moment of the fatal impact, my body slumped on the dashboard but my spirit continued the motion from the whiplash and recovered. I had crossed the threshold to the next life seamlessly.

I woke up from that dream and realized that I had been given a preview of what happens when a person dies. Life doesn’t cease; it continues on but just takes another form.

February 20, 2009


My husband and I have had the privilege of working with farmers. We found out one thing: the planting is in different season than the reaping.

This truth is also true at work… I didn’t get to be manager overnight. It took years and years to finally pass my tests and graduate.

We were miserable in our business for more than two years before we got going… A growth process inside out had to take place.

February 13, 2009


While I am writing for my blog, a super tsunami has just hit Southern Asia . More than a hundred thousand people were killed.

Fortunately, the Philippines was spared. But what if the massive tsunami had struck us? Are we prepared to face what comes before us?

We need to be. Every moment of our lives is part of one great plan. This every moment we need to cherish. “Carpe Diem” “Seize the day.” Being prepared isn’t merely gathering food and staying inside our houses.

Being prepared entails a certain love.

A certain forgiveness.

February 10, 2009

Teacher’s Pet

I was the teacher’s pet way back in grade school. I enjoyed all the attention and took full advantage of the additional privileges.

For example, my teacher would use my notes in giving out quiz questions so my notebook served as the perfect reviewer. She would ask me to help her grade our test papers so I got “exclusive” preview of the results. She would entrust me to fetch her child from kindergarten so I managed to be excused from the classroom for about 15 minutes each day while I walked the short distance to the pre-school.

It is only in hindsight that I realized that I became her favorite not because of any special closeness that she felt fro me. It was mostly because I served her well. My notes were always complete and written in legible handwriting. I would stay for an additional half hour after each class to help her check the papers. She knew she could trust me to go straight to her child’s school and not make any trip on the side.

February 7, 2009

The Game

I was playing billiards with my cousins and uncle a sometime ago. Solids and Stripes. The objective was for a team to pocket either all the solid colored balls, or all the striped ones. In one shot my uncle accidentally pocketed a striped ball when he was aiming for a solid one. Laughing hard, my cousin who was on the opposing team commented: “Uncle, you’re strongest team mate.”

Thing is, if you don’t pocket a ball on one shot, you’re also giving the opposing team another chance to get ahead of you. So in not making a shot, you’re actually helping the other team win.

February 4, 2009

Don’t Just Walk By

When you see someone lying on the road, don’t just walk by.

He just may be your child or your sister or your mother…

When a family member is hurting, and we don’t even bother investing our time to pay attention, to listen, to care…

Because we’re in a hurry. Because we’re busy. Because we have no time.

For example, I believe that many families miss a great blessing from God when they don’t eat together. Or when they eat together, but with the TV set ruling the dining room. When that happens, then they’re not able to listen to each other’s stories of pain and joy but let Steven Spielberg tell his stories instead.

Don’t just walk by.

February 2, 2009

Raise Your Eyes

short-hairstyle-2It was graduation day. All the students were fussing over the seating arrangements and my aunt Nene, as their teacher, supervised them. When everyone had settled down, I found my aunt standing next to the Valedictorian. She asked him “So, you made it all the way to the end and all the way to the top. What was your motivation?”

“Ma’am, I want to have a good life, someday, I want to give my family everything they need in life,” he exclaimed.

Auntie smiled. She thought that this boy had a good heart… and he loved his family dearly.